Nourishing the ‘we’ in your web – part 2.

After yesterday’s post about the neural web, I came upon the following from Chris Saad, which has much in common with the views I has expressed. The last 3 or 4 slides are particularly powerful.

My question, as per yesterday, is who is going to win the race to provide the tools that enable us to create the strong neural connections; whoever is first with a workable solution will get a headstart over their rivals.

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Nourishing the ‘we’ in the web

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about the strength of connections, rather than the number of them.

I’ve also been interested for a long time in psychology and how the brain and mind work. One of the things that neurologists have told us is that as we learn skills and acquire knowledge, we form new connections between the neurons in the brain. The more we use those neural pathways, the stronger the connections become. Conversely, if we don’t sue them, they wither and die. So it is with what we might call the Neural web!

Social Media software is great for making connections; most network sites allow you to create huge networks but don’t give you the tools to then manage those networks proactively. This has got to happen if networking is to be taken to the next level and I believe it is something that will be developed in the next couple for years. Otherwise, we may lose the important conmnections and the link will wither away like the neural pathway.

Imagine a network of 10,000 connections. It’s difficult to identify within that list, the like-minded people with whom you want to stay in close contact. Then imagine if you could create several lists, by keywords and could then communicate with them around shared interests. Like the brain creating new neural networks as a new subject is learned, those connections will be nourished with reapeated contact and giving. It is important to have breadth of contacts – we also need to find ways to create depth and strength.

In that way, armed with the knowledge of the group’s skills, knowledge and strengths, you can keep their names close at mind. Then when someone mentions that they are looking for an individual with a particular skill- or knowledge set, you can make the appropriate referral.

This is what nourishing the ‘we’ in web means to me, is consistent with the concept of the neural web and is something for which I’m trying to find solutions. How do you do it, particlarly if you have one or more large networks you are managing?

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Einstein was wrong! E=MC4

Huh? Have I redefined physics? Not at all, just borrowed a famous equation!

To rephrase Einstein, E=MC4; Effectiveness = Motivation x Commitment x Concentration x Clarity x Consistency, where motivation and commitment both include action as well as positive thinking, concentration is focus and clarity is having a clear objective.

Whilst “The  Secret” and the “Law of Attraction” are deserverdly popular – they have focused people’s attention on the important part their beliefs play in their daily lives, they miss out on the action element.  Empowering beliefs and positive thinking  on their own are not enough, otherwise we’d all win the lottery! Taken to its logical conclusion, if positive thinking and beliefs were all that is required, you needn’t even take the action of buying a ticket! But we know that’s absurd, we know that action and effort are required.

Yet the idea of putting effort into something has become unpopular as more and more people want a fast fix, quick buck, easy solution. If people really understood tha social media and networking is not a sprint, it’s a marathon as Gary Vaynerchuk is fond of saying, I’m prepared to bet that the number of bloggers out there would drop off sharply!

Where does effort come into the equation above? Effort is a combination of the energy that comes from being committed and motivated and the repetition of consistency.

Maslow, in his well-known hierarchy of needs, says there are two processes necessary for self-actualization: self exploration and action. It’s not an either/or, it requires both. So, what are the characteristics of self-actualized people? According to Maslow (1) they:

  • Embrace reality and facts rather than denying truth.
  • Are spontaneous.
  • Are interested in solving problems.
  • Are accepting of themselves and others and lack prejudice.

(1) Maslow, Abraham H. “A Theory of Human Motivation.”  (1943) PDF retrieved 14 December 2009

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Top Ten Tricky Questions to Ask Yourself

I realise looking back over the posts of the last couple of weeks that I have posted a lot about social media. Whilst social media and networking are an important tool for being able to unleash your potential, I want to open up the blog and look at unleashing potential from other angles.

Sometimes, it can be very easy to get bogged down in the minutia, the small stuff, and to lose sight of what’s really important to us. This can lead to us losing focus, friends and even important relationships. It’s especially easy to do so in the world of social media and networking – there are so many articles to read, so many blogs to visit, so many people to Tweet that we can all too easily fall into the trap of letting our 0n-line relationships replace our human contact!

Add to the mix the seductive lure of being a ‘player’, or perceiving ourselves to be one in whatever is our niche, and it becomes even easier to lose sight of what’s important.

To check whether you are on that slippery slope, ask yourself the following

1.What do you want to achieve with your life?

2. What does true success mean to you?

3. What is the most valuable thing in your life that money cannot buy?

4. What are your 3 most important tips for enduring health?

5. What do you believe is your life’s purpose?

6. If you knew that the world was going to end tomorrow, what would you do today?

7. What are  the 3 biggest mistakes that you have made in your life?

8. What are the main lessons that you have learned from your answers to question 7?

9. Where/with whom do you find comfort during difficult times?

10. Who are the most important people in your life? What do you do to maintain and build your relationship with each one?

and a bonus question! What is the biggest unsolved relationship problem in your life right now and what are you doing to solve it?

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This is not Christianity as I Understand it

I have been really taken aback by the response of some senior Christain leaders to the Haiti Disaster. Click here for a summary of the responses of people like the Archbishop of York and Pat Robertson.

What I don’t understand is that this kind of approach is a throw back to the 18th and 19th century hellfire and brimstone preachers, preaching a God of vengeance. They induced fear in the population, and in their congregations, to get people to go to church. they presented their church as being the only way to safety.

I thought we had left that approach behind. Maybe not, maybe it’s why more an more people are rejecting institutionalised dogma and going back to spiritual principles.

Contrast the hate and fear-laden poster that Nathalie Jamois found in a leaflet by the Westboro Baptist church which she writes about in this article with the spiritual basis of Christianity that Paul writes about in 1 Corithians 13:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Quite a contradiction!

Have a great day

Nic

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