19. Mar, 2010 
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Smile at someone - do it now!
How often have you said “I wish I had done that, but I didn’t have the time?” I’ve certainly done it and wrote at length about some of the lessons I’d learned about this in the article 10 Things I Wish I Had Known And Stuck To From Early On. Here are 14 tips to help you to put an end to procrastination. Read more…
08. Oct, 2009 0 Comments
6. Money is unspiritual
You can be spiritually rich and financially prosperous – spirit and matter are not separate. Indeed, one of the reasons that you are here on earth is to live your dream to the benefit of everyone, including you! Think of it this way. As you reap the rewards of your success, think about all of the causes you’ll then be free to support, to invest in! The more money you make, the greater the causes you can invest in! Money is unspiritual if we allow it to manage us. However, if we manage it, and use it to enjoy life and to fund great causes, it becomes a spiritual tool.
7. I am unworthy/nothing good ever happens to me
This is one I can really identify with; for a long time, due do an overheard conversation that I misunderstood, I believed that my younger brother was more intelligent than me and that nothing good every happened, or would happen, to me. I guess that this was exacerbated by my mother’s death, which served to reinforce the belief that only bad things happen to me. It’s a dangerous mindset to have, because anything to the contrary is discounted or ignored. Of course, lots of good things happened to me, but because that didn’t fit my model of the world, I ignored them or found an excuse to invalidate them.
8. Nothing I do is good enough
No-shows, or Spectators that have developed from a No-show past often believe this. If this applies to you, my question for you is what are you using as your comparison? Good enough compared to what or whom? And look at your belief…nothing? Have you never produced a good result at anything? At some stage in your life, you must have succeeded at something. So you can get good results. Which means that the belief is false. Time to reprogram yourself!
9. My failure is a result of bad karma from a past life
If you believe that you carry ‘bad karma’ into this life from a past life, think of this: it can’t have been that bad as you were allowed to incarnate here so think of it as being given a second chance to take whatever actions are necessary to succeed. And part of that second chance may well be to cancel any ‘negative karmic energy’ that you believe you carry by giving. Make it a regular practice to give money to whoever inspires you, or whoever you consider to be worthy of it and you will find that any karmic residue will be dissolved and that you will attract more money, a proportion of which you can give away and so on. Get more, give more, get even more, give even more and so it goes on!
10. God will provide so I don’t need to do anything
God/the Universe/Spirit are available to help you if asked, but they won’t do it for you; as I’ve said before, you have to play your part. My wife has a great expression “Trust God but lock the car doors when you park.”
07. Oct, 2009 3 Comments
We have are many fears that may limit our success; in this two-part article, I will be examining 10 of those that jeopardise way of our health, wealth and happiness..
1. Fear of Failure
Do you hold yourself back from doing what you really want to do because you’re afraid of failing? If so, ask yourself a simple question – how do you know you will fail? If you really feel a calling to do it, whatever ‘it’ might be, then know that you are supported in your efforts, you are not alone.
And anyway, in the unlikely event that things didn’t turn out as you had hoped, what would be the cost of failing? Often it’s just time and perhaps a loss of face – another tip for you:
Reframe ‘Failure’ as feedback and look for the positive
As many people know, Eddison took over 10,000 attempts before successfully inventing the light bulb and saw each ‘failed’ attempt as having discovered one more way that didn’t work. Anthony Robbins went bankrupt before reinventing himself and becoming possibly the most successful inspirational speaker on the planet. Study the biographies of people like Joe Vitale, Richard Branson, Amitabh Bachchan, Pat O’Bryan, Oprah Winfrey and many others; you’ll find that in most cases, they suffered setbacks on the way.
All too often, we fear a loss of control or believe that we have no choices. That’s partly because we see things in a single frame of reference, but by reframing, we re-affirm to ourselves that we have options and choices, that we have some control over our lives.
One of the big differences between successful and unsuccessful people is the ability of the successful to reframe negative situations. While the ‘average’ person looks at the undesirable result as failure, the successful person looks at it simply as an outcome, then tries something else and ultimately produces their desired result.
2. Fear of Success/It takes so much energy to succeed.
Whilst some people are afraid of failure, others are afraid of the success, or of their perception of the price that they will have to pay for their success.
Or they would rather find a short cut that makes it effortless? Either way, they are not prepared to put in the effort required to ensure success. Some are lazy; others have been seduced by the books that suggest that if they utter a few affirmations and believe in the ‘Law of Attraction’, health, wealth and happiness will fall into their laps. There is nothing wrong with the Law of Attraction but somewhere along the way it became over-simplified. You still have to take direct action!
3. Poverty or Scarcity Consciousness
Most of us were told when we were growing up that we should not be greedy or selfish. We may also have been brought up to believe that the world has only a limited amount of resources, that there’s not enough to go round so we’re being selfish if we succeed.
John Kehoe (1992) summed it up when writing:
“Imprint these 4 prosperity beliefs into your unconscious mind:
There is nothing greedy or unspiritual about having money; it’s what you do with it that matters. The negative aspect is greed, keeping it all for yourself, wanting money for money’s sake. The positive is all the good you can do with the money you earn – it’s difficult to make a difference in the world without earning the money first.
4. Life is hard with little reward
You are wealthy right now! We all have riches, whether family, friends, place of worship, financial wealth, work, organisations we belong to etc. The thing is, only financial wealth pays the bills. You can choose to build your riches, including your financial wealth, or you can undermine yourself with poverty consciousness and believing you are unworthy to have money. It’s up to you! Yes you have to put the effort in, and the reward is commensurate with the effectiveness of the effort you put in.
Note the subtle difference – I didn’t write that the ‘reward is commensurate with the effort you put in’, but with the ‘effectiveness of the effort.’ There’s a huge difference!
The distinction is simple – effectiveness means doing the right things (as opposed to efficiency which means doing things in the best way), so are you being effective? In other words, is everything you do aimed at living your dream? If the answer is ‘no!’, then yes, life can appear to be hard with little reward.
True success never diminishes someone else, is never selfish. Make sure that you never allow yourself to be jealous of someone else’s success. Instead, see it as proof that if they can succeed, so can you! As well as the direct benefits your service provides, there are also the indirect benefits; you spend the fruits of your success, creating profit for others, contributing to the economy as those people in turn spend their greater profits and so on.
5. Having a closed mind
This is typified by phrases such as ‘There are already so many books out there’, ‘That won’t work for me because…’, ‘It won’t work in the current economic climate’, ‘That might work for most people, but I’m different/my situation is different’, and so on. A closed mind is another way of saying that ‘My perception of the world is right and is the only valid one.’ It actually becomes a self-reinforcing, vicious circle; your perception is your reality, as we will see later. If you continue to believe that it’s ‘Your way or the highway’, then you are right, it won’t work for you; A closed mind closes down its options.
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