Rationalising Failure

Failure is inevitable at times – the challenge to personal development and growth is how you deal with it. Do you learn any lessons and then move on, or do you rationalise it, making excuses? People come up with many reasons to explain away their failure to achieve their goals. Among the ones I  hear most often are the following:

  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Success/It takes so much energy to succeed.
  • Poverty or Scarcity Consciousness
  • Life is hard with little reward
  • Having a Closed Mind
  • Money is unspiritual
  • Nothing good ever happens to me
  • Nothing I do is ever good enough
  • My failure is a result of bad karma from a past life/I’m not destined to succeed
  • God will provide so I don’t need to do anything
  • Seeing feedback as criticism
  • Not taking Action
  • In addition, people somethimes don’t see failure as feedback, they see it as justification for not trying another way of achieving their goal. Alternatively, when they fail, they just try doing the same thing again, and again, and again!

    So, do you see failure as natural, part of the path you are on, or do you try to rationalise it away? The approach you take will make a huge difference to your life!
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    If You Want to Win the Lottery, You Have to Buy a Ticket!

    It seems obvious yet so many people don’t apply this in their own lives – you can’t win the lottery without taking the necessary action: buying a ticket. And in life, the only person who can take the action necessary is you. You can get help, of course, but if you sit on the sofa and expect others to do it for you, you’ve got no chance! [Read more...]

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    Who’s running your life?

    Think of your life as being a sports match, or a performance in the theatre: in your life, are you a player, a spectator or a no-show?

    Players take control and responsibility for their lives; spectators watch, surrendering most of their control and responsibility for outcome to others. No-show are unaware that the game’s afoot and adopt a victim mentality, blaming everything and everyone but themselves. Players act, spectators react, no-shows wonder what happened.

    The list is much longer; more of it will appear in coming days.

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